The Confident Woman

Hey ya'll *crickets*

I found this online and liked it... let me know what ya'll think!

The Confident Woman (Start today living Boldly and without fear) by Joyce Meyer

Confident people do not concentrate on their weaknesses; they develope and maximize their strengths.

A confident person is open to learning, because she knows that her confidence allows her to walk through life's doorways,eager to discover what waits on the other side.

Confidence allow us to face life with boldness, openness, and honesty. It enables us to live without worry and to feel safe. Confidence gives us permission to be different, to be unique.

A confident woman knows that she is loved, refused to live in fear,is postive, recovers from setback, avoids comparisons,takes actions and does not live in " if only", and "what if".

Fear is a dangerous virus and will cause you to never reach the potential in your life.

Once you allow the spirit of fear to take hold of your life, you open the door to other spirits that will grip your heart and cause you to freeze up, unable to move forward in confidence. and assurance.

New Growth

I love this video. I am napptural (no heat, no chemicals), so I am totally feeling the messages in this video. I also love the fact that so many Nappy's were representing so very well for all of us who have made the transition to what G-d gave us. Like a friend told me, "G-d don't make no mistakes!" Amen!

Today was a day of revelations for me. First I realized that everybody you think is your friend, isn't. Second, I realized that I don't really give a hawt fuck what people think of me. As long as I am true to myself, then everything else is alright. I also realized that I talk too much to the wrong people, but that situation is being rectified as we type.

I was going to type some ignance here, you know, respond to the stupidity that these people were putting out, but I decided that adding to an already tense situation is just asking for trouble. These are some mean innanet streets, and I don't wanna be known as an Innanet Gangsta (SNORT!!!) Not to mention the fact that if I lower myself to their level, they win. Fuck that. All I can do is pray for your enlightenment and wish you heaven!

Peace, Love and Blessings ya'll!

Willie Lynch Syndrome

Hey everybody. You know, usually I come on here and try to be at least a little bit positive about the things I see around me, but some shit just needs to be said about the foolishness I see going on around me. I was over on Black Hair Media tonight and I was reading a post by a young woman who was more... fuck it. You gots ta read this shit churre for yourself

Is this Bitch For Real?!?!

*stunned look* Am I the only one who felt really sad to know that she felt that way? I mean come on... I know I had more important things on my mind than whether or not my little girl was going to be happy, healthy and filled with joy than about some shit like whether she was gonna have nappy ass hair. And for this one to be saying she doesn't wanna have kids cause of that is an affront to me. I had a hard time getting pregnant with #2 daughter... a real hard time. And for this child to sit there and say she doesn't wanna have kids cause of nappy hair makes me want to find her and Suge Knight choke-dance with her ass until she drops.

*EDIT* Please, please, please read through some of the advice the people on that damned forum gave her! *drops in the road like Sophia... dress flyin' up with white draws showing*

I guess Ole Willie's methods worked after all.

My people, we have GOT to do better!

Black to My Roots

Hey everybody. It's 2:19am as i begin to write this. Everybody is asleep except for me, and I am feeling pretty damned good about myself today. I finally did it... I got my Big Chop! I did it myself after rocking about a year's worth of Microbraids. I am feeling free, but scared at the same time. There is so much information out here about nappy but happiness, that sometimes I feel a little bit lost. Luckily one of the ladies over at C&D cyber adopted me and is answering all of my questions.

I am so elated at finally getting up enough courage to chop that fire cream out of my head I don't what to do! I would scream and cut capers, but I ain't trying to wake the babies. Now I just want to take the time to get to know this fluffy, puffy, kinky textured hair on my head. I am loving every single strand, but I know it won't always be such a love affair. I'll have good days and bad days, but I refuse to be defeated. I love my Blackturally beautiful hair!

Speaking of It and Dit (my names for the babies), today marks almost 3 weeks with them and so far so good. Dillon is smiling and follows my every move, and McKenna is already Daddy's Baby... which is just fine with #2 Daughter. She'd just happy to not be the baby in the family anymore.

*looks around to make sure she's sleeping* She doesn't know that she's always gonna be Momma's baby.

#1 daughter will be 16 in a few days. As I look back, I wonder where the hell did the time go? It seems like just yesterday that I was bringing home this little bundle of love, and now here she is, almost an adult. *tears up* My little girl is a young lady now, and I am so proud of her, my straight 'A' student. Lei, every day with you has been a joy, and I hope that one day you will understand why I am so hard on you. I only want the best for you, my baby... my young woman... the first great love of my life.

Ready, Aim, Fire!!!

Update: It's been almost 2 weeks since I got the babies and all is going extremely well. Their names are now officially Dillon Anthony and McKenna Rose. I can't wait until they're sleeping through the nights, 'cause this up and down all nite long stuff is for the birds.

I wanted to stop here and respond to a comment left in the last thread by my girl Saun from C&D:

I know it's kind of sad and maybe a little mean, but I'm hoping the mother doesn't come back.~ Saun

Saun, don't feel that this is a mean thing to think. I pray every minute of every day that she doesn't, but I'm ready for the reality that she might. I don't want to give my babies back, but in the end I am only the caretaker of these two until the courts say that such a time has arrived that I can be their Mother. I pray that this young woman does the right thing and just leaves us in peace, but at the same time I know how hard it can be to lose a child, and adoption, especially when you don't know who the people getting your baby are, is losing a child. Sad, but true.

In happier news, I feel that I just have to share this story.

DH was taking over daytime diaper duty, and as is his normal routine, he was talking to me at the same time that he was changing Dillon's diaper. Now, both of my older girls were in the nursery with us, and they both went all googly eyed as the baby's penis started to rise to the occasion. Now, I tried to warn my DH what was about to happen, but like always, he didn't listen. And just as the boy's penis came to a head, daughters part 1&2 ducked and laughed their butts off as Daddy got a face full of pee.

Did I laugh you ask? You're darned tootin' I did! Laughed so hard I had tears in my damned eyes. I done told him about doubting the Momma! I should feel bad, but I can honestly say that I do not!

Take care and be blessed... until next time!

Babies Mine

Wow... has it really been almost 3 months since I last blogged? I guess time really does fly when you're up to nonononono gooood! (that episode of Martin kills me every damned time!)

As some of y'all may or may not know, #1 Husband and I were recently certified to become adoptive/foster parents. Well, Tuesday morning/ early afternoon, the DCFS in my state called and told me that they had an emergency placement for us: 3 day old biracial twins who were abandoned at a firehouse. Question was: can you take them on such short notice? Are you kidding?!?! Hell YEAH I can take them! I explained what was going on to my supervisor lady, kissed my girls bye bye, and was out the door faster than Flo Jo on Monster Energy drink! I spent the rest of the evening running around like a chicken with my head cut off getting baby clothes, diapers, milk, toys, furniture, etc while my husband (thank you soooooooo much Baby!!!!) ran to various relatives houses to pick up any random stuff they had available for us. Fortunately one of my cousin's had a baby in January and had kept most of her baby clothes. Only 1 problem now: this is a boy/girl twin combination, and most of the clothes I got from family were for girls! Damn, damn, damn! *in best Florida Evans voice*... It was getting late and I had to wait for them (the people bringing the babies) to get to my house, but I knew Tuesday morning was gonna be a full on sprinting around town yet again kinda day!

Anyway, I finish running around at close to eleven pm, and we have yet to get the furniture set up and stuff. Luckily my FIL is good with his hands and he got the bassinet set up just as they were pulling into the driveway with the babies. They had come straight from the hosptial, and were swaddled in yellow duckie covered blankets... and were the most amazingly beautiful little people I have ever seen. I fell head over heels in love with them and haven't looked back since! But ummmm real talk for a minute: Can I just say that I did not remember how much work having newborns can be?!?! I thank G-d on bended knee that both of my girls are having as much fun taking care of them as I am, but still. Those 3a.m. feedings are a summabitch! I have to say thank you to my MIL, my 2 SIL's and my BIL's, cause if it hadn't been for them, I would have been out for the count. A sistah's ass is so tired, she's about to fall asleep sitting at the 'puter!

*side eyes #1 Daughter as she sneaks into the nursery to check on the babies*

She ain't slick! She wake 'em, she take 'em!

I am so happy right now, but at the same time, I am utterly amazed that G-d worked so fast to bring these two little people into my home and heart. I can't front though, I'd love to have a dozen! I was always the one who took care of people's babies when they went out, so this is really a blessing for me. The best part is that the mother has basically severed her parental rights and if she doesn't show up to claim them within 60 days, we can adopt them! I really am about to cut capers right now!!! The only thing holding me back now is time. I'm a worrier. It's what I do and damn it, it's what I'm good at.

We're still excited as hell though! I just have to come up with names for them... any suggestions from the people reading this? My son's name (I got a baby boy damn it!!!!) will probably be Dillon Nicholas. I just need to come up with a name for my daughter. Some of my favorite choices are Rhiannon Claire, McKenna Rose, Savannah Caroline and Sarah Elizabeth. I know... really YT names, but I would never name a child something I wouldn't want to be named.

I'm typing this as they nap, and they are the most peaceful little people I have ever seen! They'll be up in about 2 hours for another feeding, but I don't mind. I love having them in the house already. Even #2 Daughter is excited to finally not be the baby anymore! I had them in the nursery last night, but #1 said that he'd feel better if they were in the room with us, so bassinette moves to our room tonight. Cuts down on my running too, but also adds to him being about to help... he's just as excited as I am.

Anyway, I want you all to pray for me, laugh with me (cause I just know we're gonna have some funny ass moments soon), and most of all, celebrate with me damn it!!!

Timeless Messages for Black Women

I found this on youtube and since I love this song, I decided to post it here. Sang yo song Niecy!!!

The ladies featured (not in order):

JOYCE BRYANT, Josephine Baker, Nina Mae McKinney, HAZEL SCOTT, Fredi Washington, Katherine Dunham, FLORENCE MILLS, LORRAINE HANSBERRY, Diana Sands, PEARL BAILEY, BrickTop, DINAH WASHINGTON, Sarah Vaughan, ELLA FITZGERALD, Leslie Uggams, Ma'RAINEY, NANCY WILSON, CARMEN McRAE, Madame Sul-Te-Wan

MINNIE RIPERTON,PHYLLIS HYMAN, Ethel Waters, Hattie McDaniel, Abbey Lincoln, MOMS MABLEY, Teresa Graves, Debbie Allen, Bessie Smith, Hilda Simms, Ellen Holley, Josephine Premice, Alberta Hunter, Shirley Horn, Mabel Mercer, NINA SIMONE, Judith Jamison, Diahann Carroll, Nell Carter, Gwendolyn Brooks, Nikki Giovanni,

BILLIE HOLIDAY, DOROTHY DANDRIDGE, Celia Cruz, Rosalind Cash, BEVERLEY JOHNSON, Lena Horne, Shirley Bassey