18 July 2007

In & Out of Time

Hey people! I was sitting with my little people the other day, playing with the babies and listening to #2 Daughter reading to her little brother and sister while #1 Husband and Daughter were sitting on the couch watching TV. It just so happened that the movie they were watching was Tyler Perry's Madea's Family Reunion. Now some people know how I feel, but the majority of ya'll don't, so let me tell you I LUFF Madea! She may be ghetto in the extreme, but man does she have some good things to say. I have a Madea in my life (hey Big Momma!), so I know how valuable their input can be on our lives nowadays... especially when love seems like the most disposable commodity in the world.

Cecily Tyson (Aunt Myrtle and one of my Ms. Jenkins) was talking about how she had been blessed to share time and space with someone who she believed that G-d has created especially for her, and that stopped me cold. I looked at my #1... and in that heartbeat... that, second, I knew what she meant. I always fuss about him being able to read me like a book, but I do the same thing to him. We walk and talk--and sometimes we even breathe at the same rate... was he, this man who has been my comfort and my strength through so much adversity and pain, this amazing man that sometimes I admit I have taken for granted... was this beautifully human person created just for me? It's a humbling thought that G-d took time out of His busy schedule to create someone who makes my life whole...

Now I have seen Madea's Family Reunion live and in movie form, but I must say that the movie really touched on something I believe: Love is something so special that is shouldn't be rushed into because of outside forces compelling you to do it. And you darned sure can't allow anybody to live your life for you! Stand up and let your voice be heard! Love yourself enough to say "No More!" Be of one mind and one heart with the special person in your life... unless that person is not any good for you. Then you need to find the strength to walk away.

Maya Angelou read a poem in the movie that really touches on this theme. It's called In & Out of Time:

The sun has come.
The mists have gone.
We see in the distance
Our long way home.

I was always yours to have.
And you were always mine.
We loved each other in and out of time.

When the first stone
looked up at the blazing sun.
and the first tree struggled
from the forest floor.
I had always loved you more.

You freed your braids.
Gave your hair to the breeze.
It hummed like a hive of honeybees.

I reached in the mass
For the sweet honeycomb there.
God, how I loved your hair.

You saw me bludgeoned
By circumstance.
Lost, injured, hurt by chance.

I screamed to the Heavens.
Loudly screamed.
Trying to turn our nightmares into dreams.

The sun has come.
The mists have gone.
We see in the distance
Our long way home.

I was always yours to have.
You were always mine.
We loved each other in and out,
In and out,
In and out of time

Stay blessed and remember, someone has been created, some one special and unique and beautiful who will love you in and out of time!